Metal might not sound like the most appealing sex toy material, but trust me if you haven’t tried a metal dildo, you are missing out!
I too was unsure of the cold, rigid, and heavy material, but I now consider myself a true metalhead, when it comes to dildos anyway! And once you learn how to wield your weighty wand, I think you will be too!
But I get it, they look pretty intimidating, so we’re going to cover exactly how to use a metal dildo…
Here’s everything you can find in this post:
- How to Use a Metal Dildo
- The Best Metal Dildos Out There
- Tips for Maximum Pleasure With Your Metal Dildo
- What’s So Great About Metal Dildos?
How to Use a Metal Dildo
Metal dildos are wonderfully versatile and come in a wide range of different shapes that shine for different purposes. Anyone can enjoy a metal dildo, and their smooth surface means that some even make great beginners toys!
G-Spot Stimulation
When you stimulate your G-spot, you are actually stimulating the internal clitoral structure through the wall of the vaginal canal.
Metal dildos make it easy to apply firm pressure and deep massage that many g-spots seem to love!
Many vulva owners have found that this more intense stimulation has helped them to unlock g-spot pleasure and even have their first squirting experience!
You might want to throw down a waterproof sex blanket, like the Liberator Fascinator just in case!
- Start with lots of external play to build arousal. This will help the internal clitoris swell and make it easier to find and stimulate your g-spot. Grab your nipple clamps, tease your clit with a bullet vibrator, or even use the tip of your metal dildo to massage your clitoris and between your labia.
- Apply a good slick of lube to the end of your metal dildo and slowly insert it. You don’t need to go deep as most people’s g-spots are just a few inches into the vagina.
- Angle your metal dildo towards your belly button — this is easiest with a curved metal dildo. You might feel like you need to pee, but don’t worry, this just means you’ve found the right place!
- Now you can explore different motions to see what works for you. Try rubbing the tip of the dildo back and forth or side to side over your g-spot, trace circles over it, or even lightly bounce the tip against your g-spot. The weight of the dildo means you won’t have to use a lot of pressure so start out gently!
A-Spot Stimulation
The A-spot (anterior fornix erogenous zone) sits a little deeper into the vagina, nestled in front of the cervix.
Much like the G-spot, A-spot pleasure is believed to involve stimulating the deeper parts of the clitoris.
And, like all sexual stimulation, people experience it differently. Some can orgasm from A-spot stimulation, some find it increases arousal and wetness, and some don’t enjoy it.
- Start off with whatever external foreplay you are in the mood for.
- Apply a generous amount of lube to your metal dildo and insert it deep into the vagina. You want to go slowly here, so you don’t bump your cervix as this can be painful.
- When you reach the back of your vaginal canal, slide the tip of your dildo in front of your cervix, so it’s resting against the front wall of your vagina.
- The A-spot responds to pressure so once you find it, allow the weight of your metal dildo to rest against it while you stroke the tip over your A-spot in whichever way feels best for you.
Anal Stimulation and Prostate Play
Anyone can use a metal dildo for anal play and both penis owners and vulva owners can experience anal orgasms, just in different ways!
Metal is one of the best materials for anal play, as you can use it with silicone lube, which is longer lasting than water-based lube. They smooth metal also makes them easy to insert and minimizes friction as you move them! Metal butt plugs and metal anal beads are also amazing for anal play.
If you were assigned male at birth, you will have a prostate gland, a.k.a P-spot, that can be stimulated through anal penetration and can lead to incredibly pleasurable orgasms, often described as full body orgasms.
Vulva owners, as well as stimulating the sensitive nerves around the anus, you can enjoy g-spot and a-spot stimulation during anal play, so it’s a fun for all activity!
- Start with lots of external anal stimulation to get warmed up. Apply some lubrication and use the tip of your metal dildo to massage around your anus.
- Apply plenty of lube to the end of your metal dildo and your anus. For even better coverage, use a lube injector to lubricate your anal canal.
- Slowly insert the tip of your metal dildo. Take it slowly and use long, slow exhales to help you relax.
- To stimulate your P-spot (penis owners) or G-spot (vulva owners), concentrate the stimulation a few inches in and towards your belly button. For A-spot stimulation, you want to go deeper, around 4-6 inches, and angle the stimulation towards your vagina.
- Explore different stroking motions to figure out what works best for you!
How to Use a Metal Dildo for Temperature Play
Maybe the idea of cold hard metal excites you, or maybe you love feeling sensual warmth spreading through your body. Either way, you are in luck!
Metal holds temperature well, so you can easily heat or cool your metal dildo to explore temperature play.
The difference in temperature adds another layer of sensation that puts your senses into high alert. Plus, even just the anticipation of waiting for the hot or cold dildo to hit your skin can feel electrifying.
If you love temperature play, but aren’t keen on the idea of metal, glass wands are also amazing for temperature play!
- The easiest way to cool or heat your metal dildo is by using warm or cool water. Place your dildo into the water for a few minutes so it adjusts to the temperature of the water.
- Now you can use your dildo to tease your or your partner’s body. Be sure to check the temperature first though! Run a cold dildo over their nipples for chills of pleasure or stroke the tip of a warmed dildo between their labia or over their anus.
- Keep the water on hand to readjust the temperature as necessary.
- To amplify the effect, you can alternate between warm and cool sensations or have your partner explore your body while you wear a blindfold for even more sweet suspense!
Give Yourself or Your Partner a Massage With a Metal Dildo
The natural weight of a metal dildo makes it great for really working into tired muscles! You can use some massage oil to help the dildo glide over your skin and warm it before use for a super sensual massage.
As well as being great for relieving achey muscles, this makes for some pretty great foreplay!
Given the rigidity, you should stick to bigger muscles when using your metal dildo and avoid any boney areas.
The Best Metal Dildos Out There
Metal dildos come in a range of shapes and sizes, so no matter if you are a sex toy newbie or seasoned pro with a big appetite, there’s a metal dildo out there for you! Plus, many are double-ended giving you two sizes and sensations to choose from
When shopping for a metal dildo, look for one made of stainless steel as this completely body safe and made to last!
And, if you want a dildo for anal use, make sure it has a flared base or significant curve that will prevent it from being fully inserted!
Njoy Pure Wand
This has to be the most iconic metal dildo out there! The Pure Wand from Njoy has earned itself the title of ‘The Squirting Wand’ for its squirt inducing qualities.
One end has a smaller ball that is perfect for anal penetration or A-spot stimulation, while the other has a bigger ball that’s great for G-spot stimulation or anyone who prefers a fuller feeling!
Desire Luxury Beaded Stainless Steel Dildo
This beautiful beaded stainless steel dildo creates ripples of sensation as you move it in and out.
The beads are also great for anal play as you can enjoy feeling each one pop inside you or remove at the point of orgasm, like metal anal beads.
This dildo is also a little more budget friendly!
Njoy Fun Wand
Another amazing offering from Njoy, the Fun Wand is another double-ended metal dildo.
One end has a bulbed tip for massaging those internal sweet spots, and the other has a series of beads that are great for anal play.
The slight gap between the beads means you can really enjoy feeling each one being inserted and removed!
Le Wand Bow
The Le Wand Bow is similar to the Pure Wand, with two different size bulbs to play with.
However, unlike the Pure Wand, the Bow has one round tip and one teardrop-shaped tip.
It also has a spiral texture around the shaft at one end that adds extra stimulation as the dildo moves inside you!
Tips for Maximum Pleasure With Your Metal Dildo
The rigidity and weight are what give metal dildos their magical powers but that also means you need to be a little more careful than if you were using a soft dildo.
- Enjoy some foreplay. The more aroused you are when you insert your dildo, the more pleasurable it will be, so give your external erogenous zones some love and get your brain in the mood before diving in!
- Heat it to body temperature first. While you are getting warmed up, let your dildo heat up to body temperature to avoid the shock of cold metal. You can put it under your body, in some warm water, or just hold it for a while.
- Use plenty of lube. A slick of lube goes a long way with a metal dildo and creates a super smooth slide that feels just *chef’s kiss* delightful!
- Take it slowly. Metal dildos feel more intense than silicone dildos so you won’t want to thrust as vigorously, especially in the beginning. Instead take it slowly and explore more massaging motions.
- Enjoy some dual stimulation. Get even more of the good stuff by stimulating your clitoris, penis, or nipples while you use your metal dildo. This can also help you get to the big O if internal stimulation alone isn’t enough.
What’s So Great About Metal Dildos?
If you’ve made it this far and still aren’t convinced about metal dildos, I’ve put together all of the reasons metal makes for an amazing dildo material!
- It provides intense stimulation that doesn’t come from vibrations. Maybe you don’t like vibrations or just fancy a change but still crave intense sensations — hello metal dildo!
- It’s easy to enjoy a deep, firm massage without needing to strain your wrist, as the weight does a lot of the work!
- Stainless steel, which good quality metal dildos are made from, are is non-porous and non-toxic making it one og the safest sex toy materials.
- They are easy to clean and can be boiled to be sterilized.
- Metal dildos are extremely durable and could probably survive the apocalypse. Maybe they will be displayed in space museums as the last remaining artefacts of human civilisation — I hope so at least!
- You can use any lube you like with a metal dildo, as it won’t react with the material.
- It hold temperature, making it the perfect temperature play accessory.
- Metal dildos look sleek, elegant, and a little bit risky — a thrilling combination!
Glass dildos and other glass sex toys share a lot of these amazing qualities with metal ones. If you aren’t sure which one to go for, check out this post on glass vs metal sex toys.
