Anal Gape: How-To Guide

Want to know more about the famous phenomenon of the anal gape? I’ll tell you all about how to do it!

Whether you’re a seasoned anal enthusiast or simply a curious beginner, this guide will provide you with a safe, informative, and detailed understanding of this unique form of anal play.

Although anal gaping may not be for everyone, it can offer a new dimension of pleasure for those who enjoy the more intense anal sensations. The feeling of stretching and the visual aspect of seeing just how much of an impression you’ve made on someone’s butthole, literally! So, let’s dive deeper into the world of anal gaping, shall we?

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What is Anal Gaping?

Alright, let’s talk about anal gaping. It’s a bit like yoga for your butt, all about stretching and relaxing. But instead of aiming for a perfect downward dog, the goal here is to create a visible “gape” or opening in the anus.

This opening isn’t just for show, though. The process of stretching the anus and experiencing that gape can lead to some pretty intense sensations. It’s a unique form of anal play that involves using fingers, toys, or other forms of penetration to gently stretch those sphincter muscles (the ones that usually keep things closed up back there). The goal is to encourage a certain level of stretch for long enough, so the anus will be kept gaping open after penetration as well.

Now, before you start worrying, let’s clear something up. The gape is temporary. Your anus is a muscle, that will contract back to its normal state after some time. So, no permanent changes, just a temporary opening for the sake of pleasure and exploration!

Anal gaping definitely isn’t a rush job. It’s a slow, patient process that requires lots of communication between partners. It’s all about exploring new territories and pushing boundaries, but in a safe and respectful way.

A Step-by-Step Guide to an Amazing Anal Gape

1. Prep Your Butt:

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Before starting any kind of anal play, I would always recommend you empty your bowels first.

A lot of people think that you always have to use an anal douche or enema to clean out your rectum before getting into butt stuff. But as long as you’ve emptied your bowels completely a few hours prior, you should be good to go. There’s a small chance that things will get messy!

However, since we are talking about gaping, and possibly creating an enlarged hole which we can look into, I understand why you might want to make sure the coast is completely clear!

I recommend you use something like this Colt Bum Buddy Anal Douche to rinse your rectum out with water a few times before going straight to Gapetown, USA.

2. Warm-up:

Foreplay is crucial in any sexual activity, and anal play is no exception. Start with sensual touch, kisses, or a massage to build arousal. Two crucial aspects of warming up for anal gape


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Arousal is like the warm-up before the big game. When you’re aroused, your body is more relaxed, receptive, and ready for action. This is especially important for anal play because the muscles in the anus (the sphincters) need to be relaxed in order to stretch comfortably. And comfort is key!

Plus, the more aroused you are, the more intense the sensations can be. It’s like turning up the volume on your pleasure.

Go strong on foreplay! Deep kisses, caresses in all the spots, dirty talk, sexy lingerie or costumes, whatever floats your boat!


Now, let’s talk about lube. The anus, unlike the vagina, does not self-lubricate. This means that any form of anal play, including gaping, can cause friction that can lead to discomfort or even injury. That’s where lube comes in.

Lube reduces friction, making anal play smoother and more comfortable. It’s like the slip ‘n slide of sex — it makes everything more fun and a whole lot easier. And when it comes to anal gaping, you’ll want to be generous with it. The more, the merrier!


For anal sex, a silicone lube will last longer, feel slicker, and require fewer reapplications. Try out the Sliquid Silver Silicone lube.

However, silicone lubes aren’t compatible with silicone sex toys. You’re always safe to use a thicker water-based lube made especially for anal use! In this case, the Sliquid Sassy will do the trick!

Although, some hybrid lubes, like the Sliquid Silk Hybrid lube, offer safe use with sex toys and a very thick and slick lube that won’t need much reapplying.

2. Gradual Stretching:

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Gradual stretching is like the unsung hero of anal gaping. It’s the step that might not get all the glory, but it’s crucial for a safe and pleasurable experience. Here’s why:

The anus is a muscle, and just like any other muscle in your body, it needs to be warmed up before it can perform its best.

Starting with smaller objects, like a finger or small anal toys, allows the muscles in the anus to slowly relax and stretch. This is important because it helps to prevent discomfort or injury. Stretching the anus further than what feels comfortable, can result in small tears in the tissue.

Gradual stretching also gives your body time to adjust to the new sensations. Anal play can feel strange or even uncomfortable at first, especially if you’re new to it. By starting small and slowly increasing the size of the toys or objects you’re using, you give your body time to get used to these new sensations.

Finally, gradual stretching can also enhance pleasure. The process of slowly stretching the anus can be incredibly arousing, and the anticipation of what’s to come can make the final result even more satisfying!

3. Use The Right Anal Toys:

There are many toys available that are specifically designed for anal play and gaping. These can include butt plugs, anal beads, and anal dildos. Always ensure that any toys you put up your butt have a flared base, a stopper, or a handle that will prevent the toy from disappearing inside of you. You obviously don’t want something getting stuck up there!

Butt Plugs

The b-Vibe Rimming Plug 2 is also great for anal gaping.

There are some butt plugs out there that er better suited for your anal gaping adventures than others. Here’s why:

Butt plugs with girthy necks are perfect for getting that wide anal gape. Their wider necks provide a sustained stretch to the sphincter muscles, helping to create a more pronounced gape. They keep the anus slightly open, enhancing the sensation of fullness and potentially increasing pleasure.

Butt plugs are great for beginners, they’re great for wear for an extended amount of time, and some of them even have cool extra features, like this rechargeable, remote-controlled b-Vibe Rimming Plug 2!

So, for those venturing into the world of anal gaping, a girthy-necked butt plug could be a valuable teammate. As always, remember the golden rule: use plenty of lube and listen to your body.

Anal Beads

The Sex & Mischief Anal Beads can help you achieve anal gaping.

Anal beads are another great alternative for achieving that big anal gape. They’re a string of beads that increase in size, allowing for a gradual and controlled stretching of the anus.

Starting with the smaller beads and moving towards the larger ones, can help your body adjust to the sensation of stretching, making it ideal for beginners. The removal of the beads is what can cause the sphincter muscles to quickly contract and relax. Not only can this send a thrilling shiver through your body, but it can also enhance the gaping effect with repeated use!

So, if you’re exploring anal gaping, consider giving anal beads a try. They’re a great tool for pacing your journey and adding a little extra pleasure along the way!

Anal Dildos

The Fun Factory The Boss is slihtly curved and firm. This can help you achieve a g-spot orgasm.
The Vixen Randy is a great anal dildo for anal gaping.

Anal dildos are basically dildos that have a flared base and a design that’s ideal for anal penetration. Beginner anal dildos are made with slimmer shafts and tapered tips, whereas larger anal dildos are made to fulfill those desires for a deep stretch.

They’re great for deeper penetration, thrusting, and can help to prepare the anus for larger toys or objects. Just like with butt plugs, they come in various sizes, so you can start small and work your way up.

The Boss dildo from Fun Factory is a great option for anyone looking for a medium-sized anal dildo. It has a flared suction cup base for safe hands-free riding. It is deliciously curved and semi-realistic. The silicone is also firm and will help achieve that anal gape after some intense penetration. Check out my in-depth review of the Fun Factory The Boss dildo!

The Vixen Randy is for anyone looking for that super intense stretch! If you’re already experienced with anal stretching, and you’re looking for a go-to dildo to bring out whenever you’re ready for that intense anal gape, the Vixen Randy may be just the thing for you! Have a look at Isabelle’s full test and review of the Vixen Randy!

Anal Dilators

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Anal dilators, anal trainers, or anal stretchers, are specifically designed to help stretch the anus over time.

They usually come in sets of gradually increasing sizes. Starting with the smallest, you can slowly work your way up to larger sizes as your comfort level increases.

Some anal dilators have a similar design to butt plugs and are meant to be worn for a longer period of time. Others look more similar to dildos and can in fact also be used as such. With a dilator kit, you simply get that gradual increase in size, slowly training your anus to open wider with more ease.

Remember, no matter what toy you’re using to get that satisfying anal gape, safety is key. Make sure the product always has a flared base, use plenty of lube (and keep reapplying if necessary), and never do anything that hurts or feels uncomfortable. For more information about how to approach stretching and anal gaping safely, have a look at our blog post about safe anal training.

4. Patience is Key:

Patience in anal gaping is like the secret ingredient in a great recipe. It’s what turns a good experience into a great one. If you’re a complete anal beginner, the chance of you achieving a very impressive anal gape right now is not very big. Anal training and stretching can take time. Physically as well as mentally!

Anal gaping involves stretching sensitive muscles, and rushing this process can lead to discomfort or even injury. Taking your time allows your body to adjust to new sensations and relax into the experience.

Remember, anal gaping isn’t a race, it’s a journey of exploration. So, take your time, listen to your body, and let the sensations be your guide. Patience truly is a virtue in the world of anal gaping.

If you’re exploring anal gaping with your partner, then make sure to keep open lines of communication at all times. Be transparent about your limits – what feels good and what doesn’t?

Anal Gape: Why Do People Like It?

So, you might be wondering, why do some people get a kick out of anal gaping? Well, just like any other sexual activity, it’s all about personal preference and what tickles your fancy.

The Mental Arousal

For some, it’s the visual aspect that gets them going. Seeing an open anus can be a major turn-on, especially for those who enjoy the taboo nature of anal play. Getting a front-seat view of something that is usually quite hidden can be very exciting! Another visual aspect is, of course, getting to see literally how much of an “impression” you’ve made with your penis (or dildo) in someone’s butt after anal penetration.

Speaking of all things taboo, I should mention how an intense anal gape can do wonders for dominance and submission dynamics in BDSM play. Having such control over a partner’s holes, if you will, can be a kick for both a Dom and sub. Anal gaping also has lasting effects. The anus will temporarily stay open after the anal gape is achieved, intensifying the power dynamics in the relationship even after penetration is over.

Then there’s the psychological aspect of trust. Learning how to do a safe anal gape can involve a level of trust and intimacy that can bring partners closer together. Who would have thought that extreme anal adventures could help nurture your emotional intimacy?

And let’s not forget about the thrill of the unknown. Anal gaping is a bit of an adventure, a journey into uncharted territory. For those who enjoy exploring new forms of pleasure, anal gaping can be like going on a treasure hunt. X marks the spot, right?

The Sensations

For others, it’s all about the sensations. The anus is packed with nerve endings, and the feeling of fullness and pressure that comes with stretching can assist in some seriously powerful blended orgasms.

So, in a nutshell, people enjoy a good anal gape for a variety of reasons. It can be visually stimulating, physically pleasurable, emotionally bonding, and thrillingly adventurous. As always, the key is to explore safely, with consent, and with an open mind (and in this case, an open anus!).

How to Anal Gape Safely

Know Your Limits

It’s important to know your body and understand your limits. If something feels uncomfortable or painful, stop immediately. It’s better to take things slow and steady than to risk injury. Remember, it’s not a race! Take your sweet time training your anus to open up wider and wider. Anal training and stretching never be painful!

Use the Right Toys for Your Anal Gape

There are certain types of sex toys that are ideal for creating that satisfying anal gape. I’ve recommended some of my favorites in the sections above. Don’t hesitate to get some assistance in order to achieve the kind of anal goal you’re looking for! Just make sure that the toy itself has some kind of flared base, handle, or stopper, so you won’t lose anything inside of yourself! Make sure they’re made of 100% body-safe materials that are easy to keep clean and sanitary.

How to Keep Your Gape Clean

Hygiene is incredibly important when it comes to anal play. While douching is not absolutely necessary for fun anal play, you may want to keep your anal gape as clean as possible. As I mentioned in the sections above, you can use an anal douche or an enema to clean yourself internally before opening everything up!

Remember to always clean your toys before and after use as well.

Seek Medical Attention if Needed

If you experience severe pain, bleeding, or discomfort after or during extreme anal play, seek medical attention immediately. It’s better to be safe than sorry.

Safe sane and consensual

In conclusion, anal gaping can be a pleasurable and exciting form of sexual exploration when done safely and consensually. As with all sexual activities, communication, consent, and care are key. Stay safe and get oyur gape on!

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