5 Best Plus Size Strap On Harnesses

   Cassie Mørch
As a plus-size girlie I know exactly how difficult it can be to find ‘adult’ clothing or accessories that actually fit. Some strap-on harnesses don’t have the widest range of sizes and others are only adjustable to be able to fit ‘most bodies’. So, to make things a lot more simple, here are some of Bedbible’s favorite plus-size strap harnesses. I’ve listed all the main pros and cons of each product and included some special insights from our testers!
1 Test Winner

Spareparts Hardwear Unisex Joque Harness

 Spareparts Joque

  • Have a larger body
  • Need a high quality strap-on
  • Want a harness with pockets for additional toys
  • Want a fully adjustable strap-on harness
  • Durable materials
  • Do not own a penis

Spareparts Joque

  • Do not own any dildos
  • Find the price too much

  • Unisex strap-on harness with adjustable straps
  • Thick straps with soft lining
  • One strap around the waist and one around each leg
  • Stretchy, fabric o-ring in the front (fits dildos up to 2 inches in diameter)
  • 2 pockets for bullet vibrators
  • Available in two different sizes.

  • Breathable high-quality materials
  • Size B is adjustable to fit waists between 30-65 inches
  • Snug hold on the dildo
  • Provides a lot of control over your thrusting

  • Expensive
  • Doesn't come with a dildo
Spareparts Joque
DiameterO-ring: 1.25-2 inches
WaterproofYes
AdjustableYes
MaterialsPolyester and spandex
Harness Size20-50''/ 30-65 inches
Storage Bag IncludedYes

I’ve picked out the Spareparts Joque as the Test Winner in this review because it’s one of THE best strap-on harnesses we’ve tested here at Bedbible. This thing is super sturdy and made of high-quality breathable materials that are comfortable to wear. Not only is the adjustable range quite wide, the harness itself is available in two different sizes. This makes it lot more likely for you to find that perfect fit for your body. The largest size (Size B) will fit waists between 30-65 inches. “Having used only lower-quality harnesses before, this harness is a game-changer. Not only is it super comfortable and easy to adjust, the control is amazing. I noticed immediately that it was responding to my movements, and my girlfriend noticed too.” This was how our tester, Jen, described her experience with this harness. However, the vibrator pockets aren’t placed perfectly for clitoral stimulation. Jen found that it paired better with a hands-free panty vibrator instead. It’s easy to clean since it can be thrown in the washing machine. The only thing you need is a suitable dildo to put in it since it doesn’t come with one.

2 Best For Beginners

Tracey Cox Supersex Strap-On Pegging Kit

 Super Pegging Kit

  • Like to try out pegging
  • Are on a budget
  • Do not own dildos for pegging
  • Like silicone dildos
  • Like easy to use sex toys
  • Want different size options for dildos
  • Want a complete strap-on kit

Super Pegging Kit

  • Need more than 65'' around the waist
  • Prefer a brief style harness
  • Prefer a strapless strap-on

  • Strap-on kit with an adjustable harness
  • Two different sized silicone dildos
  • A bullet vibrator with 7 vibration modes
  • 3 different sized o-rings
  • Harness can be adjusted to fit a waist of 65 inches.

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  • A great kit for beginners to explore different sizes
  • Versatile and suitable for both solo and partnered fun
  • Harness is machine-washable

  • O-rings can stretch over time
  • Packaging is very gendered
  • LR44 batteries (for the bullet) are hard to find
Super Pegging Kit
Vibration speeds2
Vibration patterns5
Insertable lengthTextured dildo: 6 inches. Smooth dildo: 4.5 inches inches
Diameter (internal)Textured dildo: 1.5 inches, Smooth dildo: 0.8 inches inches
DiameterO-ring: 1, 1.5, and 2 inches
Harness SizeUp to 65 inches
AdjustableYes
MaterialsSilicone, ABS plastic, Neoprene, Nylon
WaterproofYes
Storage Bag IncludedNo

If you are looking to ease into strap-on play without spending too much, consider the Tracy Cox Supersex Pegging kit. I love how this kit offers a lot of versatility. The dildos can be used for solo play and they offer different textures, shapes, and sizes. Emiel, our tester, also found that it was made to fit a really wide range of sizes. Since he’s quite petite and short, the excess strap length did hang a bit awkwardly from the harness. As for how sturdy it was, “the harness sat snug on my body the entire time […]. Even with faster paced thrusting, everything stayed really secure. The bullet vibe held against me well, so I was able to get clitoral stimulation (my preferred way to get off)”. One minor drawback about this kit is that the packaging is super gendered. This is always disappointing to me since it just contributes to some unnecessary discomfort among some customers. I definitely prefer more diverse and neutral designs.

3 Best Strap-On Kit

Desire Luxury Vibrating Strap-On Kit

 Desire Luxury Vibrating Strap-On Kit

Desire Luxury Vibrating Strap-On Kit

  • Vibrating strap-on kit with an adjustable harness
  • Physical remote control (12 vibration settings)
  • Rechargeable silicone dildo with a slightly curved shaft
  • 3 different o-ring sizes.

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  • Size and shape of the dildo is good for different experience levels
  • High quality product with a luxurious feel
  • Remote control makes things a lot easier
  • Easy storage included

  • Only available in one color
Desire Luxury Vibrating Strap-On Kit
Vibration speeds12
Vibration patterns8
Insertable length7 inches
DiameterO-ring: 1.25, 1.75 and 2.25 inches
WaterproofYes (not remote)
RechargeableYes
Storage Bag IncludedYes
MaterialsSilicone, nylon
Battery Life45 minutes
Charging Time90 minutes
Remote ControlsYes
AdjustableYes
Diameter (internal)Dildo: 1.6 inches
Harness SizeFully adjustable inches

The Desire Luxury Vibrating Strap-On Kit is a perfect kit for those who love vibrations and want a good quality product. I wanted to include it in this review because of its strong vibrations and its diverse sizing options. It comes with a handy storage bag that can be zipped up. Now, how wide the range of adjustability is on these straps actually isn’t specified completely on Lovehoney. However, our tester, Peter, confirmed that it “will fit from a slim person all the way up to the fuller figure ladies, we can vouch for this as my beautiful wife is an absolute stunning BBW lady and fitted with no problems.” As far as the quality goes, the dildo itself is “super smooth and it has an amazing velvety feel”. The vibrations are surprisingly powerful and Peter and his wife “had no issues with the loudness, as its so quiet you can hardly notice anything.” One thing to keep in mind is that it’s only available in one color. The shape and size of the dildo may also not be suitable for everyone. Peter found the length good but he personally preferred a “slightly thicker” shaft and perhaps a more realistic look.

4 Best Brief Strap-On

Lovehoney Unisex Strap-On Harness Briefs

 Lovehoney Harness Briefs

  • Like a secure hold
  • Like beginner-friendly toys
  • Want more size options
  • Need pockets for bullet vibrators
  • Prefer comfortable harnesses
  • No straps
  • Easy to use
  • Are looking for a harness on a budget
  • Want a harness that is stylish and sexy
  • Need versatility in your harnesses (packing, playing, wearing, etc)

Lovehoney Harness Briefs

  • Do not own any dildos
  • Prefer adjustable harnesses
  • Are any size lager than XXL
  • Need the ability to change out O-rings for different sized appendages

  • Brief-style strap-on harness
  • Available in 4 sizes (S/M, M/L, L/XL, XXL)
  • Suitable for dildos that are 1.5″ in diameter.

  • Comfortable cotton briefs
  • Great for wearing on an everyday basis
  • Super stretchy material
  • Great for both strapping and packing

  • Not suitable for sizes over 2XL
  • Does not include dildo
  • Stretchy material makes thrusting less controlled
Lovehoney Harness Briefs
Harness SizeS/M, M/L, L/XL, XXL inches
DiameterO-ring: 1.5 inches
MaterialsCotton and Elastane
AdjustableNo
Storage Bag IncludedYes
WaterproofYes

The Lovehoney Unisex Strap-On Harness Briefs are perfect for those who want something a bit more comfortable and suitable for long-term wear as well as something a bit less “feminine”. As our tester, Vern, noted, “they’re affordable, stylish, and are made for a variety of bodies and necessities.” The soft and stretchy cotton makes them super comfortable. That also means that it’s perfect for wearing on a day-to-day basis with a packer. As far as strapping goes, most harnesses will come with multiple o-rings for different dildo sizes. “This strap-on underwear, however, is only equipped with one ring that can’t be traded out.” Luckily, the 1.5 inch diameter is a fairly average size and you’ll be able to find a lot of dildos that will fit in the harness. Now to the sizing issue. These briefs are available in a few different sizes and the fabric has a fair bit of give. For people who use any size under XXL, they’ll likely be able to find a comfortable fit. I would have loved to see more sizing options for those over a size XXL. “As a fat trans masc person, I struggle to find the right size and fit for me that won’t make me feel more dysphoric or dysmorphic. […] I got a XXL, and I’ll admit they don’t fit me perfectly since I’m in between sizes. I wish that Lovehoney would create larger sizes for this harness, as well as have a clearer guide on measuring yourself to find the best fit for you.”    

5 Best Lingerie Strap-On

Strap-On-Me Diva Lingerie Harness

 Strap-On-Me Diva

Strap-On-Me Diva

  • Lingerie-style strap-on harness
  • Lace inserts on the sides
  • Open back design
  • Removable garter straps
  • O-ring will fit dildos of up to 1.6″ in diameter
  • Available in 5 sizes: S, M, L, XL, XXL.

  • Sexy and elegant design
  • Easy access to the butt (great for wearing a cute butt plug)
  • Fits snugly and feels comfortable
  • Garter straps can be removed

  • Stretchy fabric doesn't give you controlled thrusts
  • Doesn't come with a dildo
Strap-On-Me Diva
MaterialsMicrofibre and lace
DiameterO-ring: 1.6 inches
AdjustableNo
Harness SizeWaist: (S) 26.7, (M) 28.3, (L) 29.9, (XL) 31.4, (2XL) 32.28 inches
WaterproofYes
Storage Bag IncludedNo

Last but not least, we have the Strap-On-Me Diva Lingerie Harness. This sexy little piece is a great introduction to strap-on play since it basically is worn like underwear. No straps to adjust or buckles to secure. This thing slips right on and feels snug and comfortable while on. Isabelle, our tester, really loved the sexy design. She especially liked that it “had a cut out back as it allowed me to also have some extra fun while wearing it! Perfect for pairing with a cute butt plug. I wore it with my Rosebuds butt plug  and the Swarovski crystal really took the whole look to the next level!” “It’s also very easy to slip a dildo into the elasticated O-ring.” Although, the small downside of having just one size o-ring is that you are limited to using dildos that fit in that diameter. As far as the strapping experience goes, “the dildo sits well in the harness but does require a little stabilization, because the fabric can stretch as you thrust.” This is alright for occasional use, but for regular use, I would recommend something like the SpareParts Joque for more stability. Similarly to the briefs, this piece isn’t what I technically would call plus-size. Yes, it’s available in multiple sizes and up to a XXL. While the fabric of this harness is fairly stretchy and will be able to accommodate some larger bodies, I do wish there were even bigger sizes available.

Need a Dildo For Your Plus Size Strap-on?

Considering most plus-size strap-on harnesses do not come in a kit with included dildos, you can consider taking a look at some of the best dildos according to your experience level.  Regardless of whether you’re looking to dip your does into the world of pegging, or if you’re a expert “wide receiver”, there’s something to suit anyone’s needs.

Beginner - Temptasia Twist by Blush

Beginner - Temptasia Twist by Blush - Need a Dildo For Your Plus Size Strap-on?
Even if you’re not using the Twist dildo with a harness, it will likely become your new favorite discreet penetrator. Designed with a twisted shaft, it can satisfy both men and women, to gently stimulate the prostate or tickle the G-spot.
  • 5-inch shaft
  • Beginner-friendly
  • Twisted ridges
  • Suction cup
  • Versatile

Intermediate - Lovehoney Curved 7-inch Dildo

Intermediate - Lovehoney Curved 7-inch Dildo - Need a Dildo For Your Plus Size Strap-on?
Without being overly filling, the Lovehoney curved 7-inch dildo is perfect for size queens and pegging pros who like the look of a nice curved shaft on their plus-sized strap-on!
  • Suction Cup
  • 7-inch curved shaft
  • Semi-realistic tip
  • Tapering girth
  • Perfect for intermediate users
  • Hollow orifice for bullet vibrator
 

Advanced - King Cock Girthy 8.5-Inch Dildo

Advanced - King Cock Girthy 8.5-Inch Dildo  - Need a Dildo For Your Plus Size Strap-on?
For seasoned receivers, who aren’t satisfied by average dildo diameters, the King Cock ultra girthy 8-inch dildo is the next best purchase for your boudoir.
  • Ultra girthy realistic 8-inch dildo
  • Luxury skin-like softness
  • Suction cup
  • Only for advanced users
  • Firm yet flexible

How to Find a Comfy Plus-Size Strap-on?

When it comes to plus-size strap-ons there are two main things you need to consider – the wearer’s comfort and the receiver’s experience. After choosing the best dildo according to the receiver’s experience, focus on picking the comfiest plus-size dildo harness for you and your partner’s needs. Moving forward, we will discuss several things you can consider before making a purchase. What style of strap on harness do you want?
  • Harness style: Secure, aesthetically pleasing, and supports heavier strap-ons. Although they can be more complicated to put on and remove.
  • Underwear style: Ideal for beginners and easy to slip on. Although they offer limited adjustability and may struggle to support heavier/larger dildos.
Should you choose adjustable straps on the harness? Adjustable strap on straps offers comfort and secure fit for multiple wearers, but can be tiresome to adjust each time. So, you should choose adjustable straps if you’re multiple people sharing and using the harness, or if you are in doubt about choosing the right size. Which type of o-ring should you go with:
  • Stretchy O-Ring
  • Multiple O-Rings in different sizes
  • One-Size O-Ring

Materials

Materials - How to Find a Comfy Plus-Size Strap-on?
Plus-size straps-on can be made from durable skin-safe materials such as leather, neoprene, nylon, spandex, polyester, rope or a blend of several types. Regardless of whether you’re using it with one or several partners, be on the lookout for harnesses that you can easily clean. Look for harnesses that are labeled by the manufacturer as machine washable, usually all materials that aren’t leather or rubber should be safe to clean in a washer. Leather: Durable and strong, perfect if you want to achieve that heavy-duty look, but requires maintenance, and it’s more expensive. Plastic (PP, Faux-Leather): Vegan-friendly, and cheaper, but it’s less comfortable and durable. Polyester: Machine washable, stretchy, comfortable, affordable. Nylon: Suitable for both harness and underwear, but might be uncomfortable as a harness.

Thong or jockstrap?

Thong or jockstrap? - How to Find a Comfy Plus-Size Strap-on?
If you opt for a plus-size strap-on with adjustable straps, there are two options to consider – thong style or jock strap. The thong is great for vagina-owners, due to the single strap that connects between the butt cheeks, while the jockstrap harnesses are perfect for additional support around both thighs.

Size and measurements

Size and measurements - How to Find a Comfy Plus-Size Strap-on?
Properly measuring your body, with a flexible measuring tape, is essential for choosing the right plus-size strap-on for your body. Most harnesses can be adjusted to fit a variety of dress sizes, and by knowing your exact measurements you can narrow down the amount of strap-on choices.

How to use plus-size strap-ons?

If you aren’t certain on how to use the specific plus-size strap-on of your choosing, consider researching whether the manufacturers or sellers offer additional instructions, or check the plus-size strap-on brand’s website for additional information. While most harnesses are pretty straightforward to use, some have a lot of straps that might need to be buckled, so knowing how to slip into your strap-on and doing so before you jump into bed will save you the awkwardness in the bedroom. In addition to this, here are several tips to help you make the best out of each use

Set the mood

Set the mood

Before partaking in pegging or other forms of anal, or vaginal penetration with a plus-size strap-on, prepare yourself and your partner for what’s to come. Play relaxing music, have a drink to unwind, and engage in some foreplay with your s/o so you can easily proceed to the next level of intimacy!

Choose the dildo

Choose the dildo

The receiver can consider their experience and usual preferences such as size, girth, ribbing, and need for vibration when choosing a dildo. If this is the first time you and your partner are using a plus-size strap-on for penetration and pegging, starting off with a smaller, less-girthy dildo will increase the success rate of your session.

Secure the harness and dildo

Secure the harness and dildo

Properly adjusting the plus-size strap-on to fit your body snuggly, without cutting off blood flow, is ideal for secure penetration. You have more control over the depth of penetration, so your partner is less likely to experience discomfort. With the dildo of your liking, use the best fitting ring to help keep it in place if your partner likes to thrust back.

Lube up

Lube up

Regardless of whether you are a pro or a noob, always use plenty of sex lube for vaginal use and a separate thicker WB lube dedicated for anal use. Since certain materials can tug the delicate skin around our intimate areas, lubrication helps any dildo slip easily inside without discomfort. If you are planning on pegging, make sure the receiver has properly cleansed with a anal douche.

How to clean plus-size strap-ons

Always check the manufacturer's description for instructions on how to properly clean the harness. While most plus-size strap-on harnesses are machine washable, please note that leather, faux leather, and rubber harnesses should be only cleansed via dedicated toy cleaner according to the brand's care instructions - We've included a leather cleaning video below that might help. If you aren't sure how to clean your harness, mild antibacterial soap and warm water will usually do the trick - just brush that on in circular motions with a soft-bristled brush, rinse and dry. When it comes to harness kits that include electronic toys such as bullet vibes you cannot dunk them in water and soap, they are not waterproof and require surface cleansing with an antibacterial toy-safe solution. Cleaning dildos, on the other hand, usually depends on the dildo's material, and for that, we've attached an infographic to help with the most common ways to clean different materials.

FAQ

Plus size strap-ons are an all-inclusive way to add another dimension to your sex life, regardless of your sexual preferences. Mainly marketed towards the use of people with vaginas, they provide a way for vagina/penis couples to enjoy pegging, while non-penis-owning couples can explore hands-free ways to penetrate using their favorite dildo.

Yes! People with penises can enjoy harnesses for a plethora of reasons; many penis owners who experience erectile dysfunction use strap-ons to enhance their play. On the other hand, penis owners who like to explore double penetration often opt for harnesses both for the additional shaft and the comfy cock rings.

Any flared-base dildo will work. Some plus-size dildo harnesses come in a kit with an included dildo, while for others that don't, your favorite dildo will do. As long as it has a flared base or a scrotum, your dildo will fit.

Yes! Most plus size strap-ons have a little pocket that can hold a standard bullet vibrator, and some of the kits even include one. Another option to add vibration during harness play (pegging and vaginal penetration) is to opt for a hollow dildo that can hold any bullet vibrator.

There are plenty of couples' strap-on sex toys on the market and we have featured many of them. Vibrating strap-ons are the most popular to use with two-way harnesses since the design allows for both partners to experience penetration and vibration simultaneously in the G/P-spot. Another great way to experience double pleasure is to use a strapless strap-on with a plus size strap-on harness. A strapless strap-on can only be worn by someone with a vagina, as this is where the strap-on sits when in use.

Think about the tightest jeans you have, but that you can actually manage to stay inside for longer - that tight! It should be enough so that you feel the snugness, but not too much so it doesn't cut off blood flow. Most importantly, it should feel comfortable and secure.

What is a Plus Size Strap-On Harness?

Plus size strap-on harnesses, are couples' sex toys that provide the additional sensation of penetration to the bedroom- the plus size element refers to the harness which holds the strap-on. This type of harness is designed to fit larger bodies more comfortably. Primarily designed to be used by people with vaginas who enjoy penetrating their partner's vagina or anus hands-free, or for pegging enthusiasts who want to dominate their partner's prostate, a strap-on can bring lots of pleasure to the bedroom. They can be used with a plethora of dildos and flared base vibrators for penetrative pleasure. They can also be used with strapless strap-ons which gives both partners pleasure. When securing the straps of your harness, you should tighten them to the strength of a pair of jeans which are tight, yet comfortable- the strap-on dildo shouldn't sag and should be secure when moving.

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