15 Best Strap On Dildos & Harnesses [Actual Reviews]

   Isabelle Uren
I’ve reviewed and ranked all of the very best strap-ons (took me 113 hours…). I looked at every type from the perfect pegging strap-on, strap-on for lesbians, His and hers strap-on dildos, harnesses, and even complete strap-on kits. With all the specs, ratings and reviews in one place, you can easily compare all the choices and find which one is going to work best for you and your partner.
1 Test Winner

Tracey Cox Supersex Strap On Dildo

 Tracey Cox Strap On Dildo

  • Prefer an adjustable harness
  • Want different size options for dildos
  • Want a complete strap-on kit
  • Want the option to add or remove vibration

Tracey Cox Strap On Dildo

  • Prefer a brief style harness
  • Prefer a strapless strap-on
  • Need a harness size larger than 65 inches
  • Prefer your own dildos.

The strap on set that has it all! The super sex strap on kit from sex and relationship expert Tracy Cox comes with not one but two silky soft silicone dildos for you and your parter to explore. The harness has a unisex design, meaning it can be worn by anyone and it comes with three O-rings so you can use it with any flared base dildo that takes your fancy! And, on top of all of that it comes with it’s very own bullet vibrator that can be slipped inside the harness for some added stimulation for the wearer!

  • Complete kit
  • Multiple O ring and dildo sizes
  • Submersible
  • Dildos can be used with harness or own their own

  • O-ring can stretch over time
  • Straps can be awkward
  • Packaging is heavily gendered
  • Bullet vibe takes LR44 batteries which can be hard to find
Tracey Cox Strap On Dildo
Vibration speeds2
Vibration patterns5
Insertable lengthTextured dildo: 6 inches. Smooth dildo: 4.5 inches inches
DiameterTextuted dildo: 1.5 inches Smooth Dildo: 0.8 inches inches
Harness SizeUp to 65 inches
AdjustableYes
MaterialsSilicone, ABS plastic, Neoprene, Nylon
WaterproofYes
Storage Bag IncludedNo
Colors AvailableHarness: black. Dildos: pink, black.

This really is a fantastic kit, and the perfect place to start your strap on adventure. The smaller, smooth dildo is perfect for people who are new to penetrative play or anyone trying anal sex for the first time, while the larger dildo is great if you want a little more stimulation in terms of size and texture. Having two dildos means you can each choose your favorite or work your way up from the smaller to the bigger one, and as both have suction cup bases, you can even ride them hands free! The harness is really easy to use as well and I love that it can be used with any harness compatible dildo, so you will never get bored! Not to mention, it’s machine washable! The bullet vibrator isn’t the strongest, as you might expect, and it’s difficult to get it in the right position in the pocket for clit stimulation, but it can be used handheld for other areas, like on the nipples. Overall a high quality, versatile strap on kit at a very reasonable price!

2 Budget-Friendly

Silicone Phallic Strap On Set

 Phallic Strap On Set

  • want a budget strap on
  • are new to strap on play
  • prefer a realistic design
  • like the thong-style harness

Phallic Strap On Set

  • want a non-realistic design
  • want a harness you can use with other dildos
  • prefer a curved dildo for g-/p-spot pleasure
  • want a very high-quality harness

If you are looking for a silicone strap on at a great price, this is the strap on for you! The 4.25 inch, realistic, silicone dildo features a veiny shaft and sculpted head that adds to lifelike sensations. Simply screw it on to the  harness and you ready to play! The harness has a faux leather black design and is fully adjustable to fit most waist sizes!

  • Great price for a silicone dildo
  • Adjustable harness fits most sizes
  • Realistic texture and shape

  • Harness can get uncomfortable, especially at the back
  • Straps can rub
  • Dildo might be to small for anyone with anal experience
  • Harness not compatible with other dildos
Phallic Strap On Set
Insertable length4.25 inches
Diameter1.25 inches
WaterproofYes (Dildo)
MaterialsSilicone (dildo), Faux leather (harness)
Harness SizeFits most waist sizes inches

I didn’t think it would be possible to find a strap on set this cheap that comes with a silicone dildo! This is a great option for anyone wanting to for a >cheap strap-on dildo. The dildo is a quite small, so might not be the best option if you already have some experience with penetration. The straps can also be a little uncomfortable to wear for a long time. You should also bear in mind that this harness is not compatible with other dildos, but at such a steal, that’s not really a surprise!

3 Best for Beginners

Tantus Beginner's Unisex Vibrating Strap On Harness Kit

 Tantus Unisex Strap on Kit

  • want two different size dildos
  • enjoy added vibrations
  • prefer smooth dildos
  • are looking for smaller dildos
  • need a unisex harness

Tantus Unisex Strap on Kit

  • prefer realistic
  • enjoy a larger dildo
  • like dildos with textural details
  • want a vibrating strap on

Tantus are known for their top quality silicone dildos and this starters strap on set is no exception! The kit comes with two smooth silicone dildos that a perfect for anal or vaginal penetration. The smaller dildo measures just 4.5 inches long and a petite 0.8 inches wide, which is perfect this is your first experience with penetration! You also get a slightly bigger dildo, giving you something to work up to! The harness is easy to adjust and can be used with any flared based sex toy!

  • Comfortable, adjustable harness
  • Two suction cup dildos
  • Perfect for beginners
  • Bullet vibe included
  • Harness compatible with other dildos
  • Two color options

  • Too small those more experienced with anal play
  • Difficult to feel vibrations from the bullet vibe
  • Not a big size difference between the two dildos
Tantus Unisex Strap on Kit
Vibration modes1
LengthSmall dildo: 4.5 inches; Large dildo: 5.25 inches
DiameterSmall dildo: 0.8 inches; Large dildo: 1.14 inches
WaterproofSplashproof
MaterialsSilicone (dildos)
RechargeableNo
Harness Size17-60 inches (US dress size 4 - 30) inches

This set makes for an absolutely fantastic starter strap-on. The non-phallic design is not intimidating in any way and the smooth surface means they glide easily when used with water-based lubrication and the rounded tips are easy to insert. The curve also provides some gentle g-spot or p-spot stimulation without being too intense. I would say these are only suitable if you are beginner and if you have more experience or prefer a larger dildo, I would recommend looking at the intermediate or advanced options as these might be a little on the small side for you! The harness is also well designed, comfortable to wear, and can be used with other dildos, which is great if you want to size up!

4 Best for Intermediate

Lovehoney Intermediate Unisex Strap On Kit

 Lovehoney Intermediate Strap On

  • want a bigger sized dildo
  • need a unisex harness
  • enjoy g-/p-spot stimulation

Lovehoney Intermediate Strap On

  • are new to strap on sex
  • prefer a vibrating dildo

Take things to the next level with this strap on set from Lovehoney! The 7 inch dildo gives you a little more to play with and really ups the sensation! It also features a more pronounced curve to really massage your g- or p-spot with each thrust. The harness offers plenty of support so you can focus on enjoying the moment and it comes with three different size O-rings to use with other flared base dildos, and there’s also a pocket for a bullet vibrator. The harness is machine washable, making upkeep a breeze!

  • Curved, silicone dildo
  • Pocket for bullet vibe
  • Adjustable, machine washable harness
  • Unisex harness
  • Compatible with other dildos

  • Straps are quite long
  • Can be a little uncomfortable for wearers with a penis
Lovehoney Intermediate Strap On
Length7 inches
Insertable length6 inches
Diameter1.5 inches
WaterproofYes
MaterialsSilicone (dildo)
Harness Size28-65 inches inches

With an insertable length of 6 inches and a diameter of 1.5 inches, this strap on is perfect for anyone with some penetrative experience under their belt. The dildo is made from lovely, soft silicone that feels fantastic with a slick of water-based lube. It’s also great that it comes with three O-rings so you can swap in any other dildo for more variety. This is a great price for silicone strap on kit and well worth the modest investment!

5 Best Strapless

Lovense Lapis Strapless Strap On Dildo

 Lovense Lapis

  • like penetration while you are top
  • want a strap on that is also app-controlled / long distance toy
  • like rumbly vibrations

Lovense Lapis

  • on a tight budget
  • want to wear it and have a large fupa
  • don't like using apps

The Lovense Lapis is a luxurious, vibrating strapless strap-on, designed for hands-free use but functions optimally with a harness. It features app-controlled customizable vibrations and is made from soft silicone. However, it may slip out without a harness and is on the expensive side.

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  • Very powerful motor
  • Good battery life
  • Customizable vibrations modes
  • Adjustable angles

  • I have experienced it slip out
  • Insertion point can be uncomfortable
  • Quite expensive
Lovense Lapis
Vibration speeds3 preset
Vibration patterns4 preset
Length9 inches
Insertable lengthShaft: 5.43 inches, Base: 3.43 inches
DiameterShaft: 1.61 inches, Base: 1.52 inches
AdjustableYes
MaterialsSilicone
WaterproofYes
Battery LifeUp to 150 minutes
RechargeableYes
Charging Time105 minutes
Travel LockNo
Remote ControlsApp controls
Storage Bag IncludedYes
Colors AvailablePink

From my perspective, the Lovense Lapis stands out in its category for several reasons. Its strong yet quiet motor, combined with the customizable vibration patterns, offers a unique and pleasurable experience. The design is both sophisticated and ergonomic, making it appealing and comfortable to use. However, the fact that it tends to slip out when used strapless can be a bit disappointing, especially given its high price point. This product is perfect for those who enjoy technological integration in their intimate experiences and don’t mind spending a bit extra for premium quality. But if you’re on a budget or prefer a simpler, traditional strap-on without app dependency, this might not be the best fit for you.

6 Best Underwear

Strap-On-Me Diva Lingerie Strap On Harness

 Strap-On-Me Diva

  • like a more feminine strap on
  • want to use many different dildos
  • like the lingerie/underwear style harnesses
  • Are a beginner

Strap-On-Me Diva

  • Want to be able to adjust the harness
  • Are looking a kit with strap on dildos
  • Prefer a gender-neutral product
  • need a secure and stable harness

The Strap-On-Me Diva Lingerie Harness is a stylish and functional strap-on harness designed with a blend of comfort and aesthetics. It’s made with a combination of lace and fabric, offering a lingerie-like appearance. The harness is adjustable and compatible with a variety of dildos, making it versatile for different users and preferences.

  • Really sexy design
  • Has lace and garters
  • Open back for free access
  • Snug and comfortable fit
  • Compatible with dildos (up to 1.6 in diameter)

  • Requires extra stablization
  • Does not come with a dildo
Strap-On-Me Diva
MaterialsMicrofibre and lace
DiameterO-ring: up to 1.6 inches
AdjustableNo
Harness SizeWaist: (S) 26.7, (M) 28.3, (L) 29.9, (XL) 31.4, (2XL) 32.28 inches

In conclusion, the Strap-On-Me Diva Lingerie Harness is a great option for those who prioritize style and comfort in their intimate wear. Its elegant design, combined with its functional features, makes it a unique addition to your collection. While it may not be the best fit for those seeking a purely utilitarian harness, its versatility and aesthetic appeal make it an excellent choice for those looking to blend fashion with function. I would recommend it for anyone who wants to add a touch of elegance to their intimate moments while maintaining practicality.

7 Best Harness

SpareParts Joque Harness

 SpareParts Joque Harness

  • are looking for a comfortable, secure harness
  • prefer jock style straps
  • want to invest in a high-quality harness

SpareParts Joque Harness

  • prefer a harness with a thong back
  • want something sexier
  • you want a harness that comes with a dildo

The Joque unisex harness is comfortable and secure, allowing you greater control over your strap-on, so you can focus on the moment and not your harness! Both the waist and legs are adjustable so you can find the perfect fit for your body. The harness is fitted with a stretchy O-ring that can accommodate any dildo between 1.25 and 2 inches in diameter, making it easy to switch between your favorite dildos. The Joque also has two pockets for you to slip your favorite bullet vibrator into!

  • Fully adjustable
  • Thick, comfortable straps
  • Unisex design
  • Two bullet vibe pockets
  • Machine washable

  • Doesn't come with a dildo
  • Pricey
SpareParts Joque Harness
MaterialsNylon and spandex
Harness Size20 inches - 50 inches inches
AdjustableWaist and legs

The Joque is one of the best strap-on harnesses on the market! The thick adjustable straps make it comfortable, even over longer periods of time, and give you great control of the dildo, all of which makes strap-on sex feel much more seamless and intimate. It’s super easy to get on and off as well which is a big pro. Plus, once you are done, it’s easy to throw in the washing machine! I would recommend this to anyone who engages in strap-on sex on a regular basis — this is definitely worth the investment!

8 His Strap On

NassToys Double Penetrator Studmaker Strap On Cock Ring

 NassToys Double Penetrator Studmaker

  • Are interested in exploring DP
  • Have an average to small girth for the cock ring to fit comfortably
  • Don't want to break the bank on a beginner DP toy

NassToys Double Penetrator Studmaker

  • Have a larger penis
  • Are looking for strong stimulation
  • have plenty experience with DP

The Nasstoys Double Penetrator Studmaker Cock Ring is a beginner-friendly DP toy with a body-safe silicone shaft and easy cleaning. Its design includes a non-adjustable cock ring and weak bullet vibrators, making it a basic option for exploring DP on a budget.

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  • Super cheap
  • Body-safe silicone shaft
  • Very easy to clean
  • Slim, beginner-friendly dildo

  • Bullet vibrator is poor quality
  • Cock ring isn't adjustable
  • No vibrations up shaft
NassToys Double Penetrator Studmaker
Vibration modes1
Length6 inches
Insertable length5.5 inches
DiameterDildo: 1.1 inches
FlexibilityFirm
MaterialsSilicone, ABS Plastic
WaterproofYes
Remote ControlsNo
AdjustableNo
Colors AvailableLight Skin Tone, Red

Personally, I find the Nasstoys Double Penetrator Studmaker Cock Ring intriguing for beginners eager to delve into double penetration without a hefty investment. Its simplicity and ease of use are pluses, but the toy’s overall performance might be underwhelming for those with more experience or specific preferences. The tightness of the cock ring and the weak vibrations are notable drawbacks, suggesting it might not suit everyone. While it’s a good starting point for exploring new experiences, those seeking a more fulfilling and robust DP toy might want to consider other options.

9 Set

Vac-U-Lock Vibrating Ultraskyn Strap On Set

 Vibrating Ultraskyn Strap On Set

  • enjoy larger dildos
  • want added vibrations
  • prefer a realistic look and feel
  • are looking for a versatile luxury strap on kit

Vibrating Ultraskyn Strap On Set

  • prefer non-porous toys
  • are new to penetrative play
  • are on a budget
  • haven't tried strap on sex/ pegging before

This versatile strap on kit is the ultimate in strap on realism! The three different dildos are made of dual density Ultraskyn for the most lifelike look and feel. Choose your dildo of the day and lock into place using either the standard Vac-U-Lock attachment or magically transform any on the dildos into a vibrator using the vibrating Vac-U-Lock base. It even comes with a remote control, making it super easy to switch between the 7 different vibrations modes without interrupting the action! As well as two bases and three dildos, you also get 3 different size O-rings, water based lubricant, toy cleaner, and toy powder, so you really are set for all the strap on fun you can imagine! What’s more, the two Vac-U-Lock bases can be used with any Vac-U-Lock dildos for even more variety!

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  • Three different size dildos
  • Varied dildo designs
  • Dual density dildos for ultra realistic feel
  • Vibrating Vac-U-Lock plug for added vibrations with remote control
  • 360 degree suction cup for hands-free use
  • Water based lubricant, toy cleaner, and toy powder included
  • Available in three different skin tones

  • Dildos very similar in size
  • Dildos are porous
Vibrating Ultraskyn Strap On Set
Vibration modes7
Length8.25 inches 7.25 inches, & 7.25 inches
Insertable length8.25 inches, 6.5 inches, & 6.25 inches
Diameter1.75 (all dildos) inches
MaterialsUltraskyn (TPR/TPE)
RechargeableYes
Remote ControlsYes
FasteningVac-U-Lock
Harness SizeUp to 69 inches inches

This set is pretty pricey but it does come with so many different ways to enjoy it! I think the vibrating base is super smart as it gives you two ways to enjoy each dildo — with and without vibrations. On top of that the swivelling base makes it easier to use the strap ons in a wider range of positions. The dildos look and feel extremely lifelike and you can choose between with or without balls. It’s also fantastic that there’s a choice between three different skin tones. The only down side to this set is that Ultraskyn is a porous material, meaning it can’t be fully sterilized and has miniscule holes that can harbour germs and mold over time. At this price, I would expect the dildos to be made of silicone.

10 Rabbit

Lovehoney Desire Luxury Strapless Strap-On

 Lovehoney Desire Strapless Strap-On

  • prefer a strapless design
  • enjoy vibrations
  • want added clit stimulation for the wearer
  • are kinky and love Dom/sub play
  • you and your partner are into anal play
  • both of you want to try new experiences and sensations

Lovehoney Desire Strapless Strap-On

  • prefer the support of a harness
  • don't enjoy clitoral stimulation (wearer)
  • prefer a softer dildo
  • are a bit squeamish and not okay dealing with body fluids
  • never played with anyone's ass before, not a beginner toy
  • are looking for a quick orgasm/ quick play/ aren't comfortable with scene prep

This strapless strap on really goes the extra mile when it comes to stimulation! Not only does the Lovehoney Desire deliver stimulation to both partners simultaneously, the wearer also gets some delicious clitoral vibrations from the rabbit ears! Choose between a whopping 12 vibration modes in the shaft and three for the wearer to find your perfect couple’s combo! This vibrant vibrator is also USB rechargeable and fully waterproof for some seriously sexy shower time.

  • Adjustable angle
  • Feels more intimate than a harness
  • Stimulation for both partners
  • Two motors
  • Clitoral stimulation

  • Too rigid for some
  • Can be difficult to hold in
  • Difficult to change settings when in use
  • The color can be off-putting for some
  • Sometimes needed a bit adjustment
Lovehoney Desire Strapless Strap-On
WaterproofYes
Vibration modesDifferent modes for different ends of a strap on
Storage Bag IncludedA very fancy leather pouch
RechargeableYes -power cable included but no plug
Remote ControlsNo
WeightLight lbs
AdjustableYes

This is a great option if you are looking for a double ended strap on that can stimulate both partners at the same time, especially if you both love vibrations! You can adjust the angle, which makes it easier to find the right fit or use this strap on in different positions. The shaft and bulb are very rigid, which some people can find too intense, so if you prefer a softer or more realistic feeling dildo, this won’t be the best choice for you. Also, as with almost all strapless strap ons, it can be difficult to hold the bulb in place, and I would recommend combing it with a harness or underwear style harness for extra support. Unfortunately, this strap on only comes in bright pink, which isn’t going to be everyone’s cup of tea, but at least it’s easy to spot in the dark!

11 Most Versatile

Lovehoney Unisex Strap on Harness Briefs

 Unisex Strap on Harness Briefs

  • Are looking for a harness on a budget
  • Want a harness that is stylish and sexy
  • Need versatility in your harnesses (packing, playing, wearing, etc)

Unisex Strap on Harness Briefs

  • Prefer adjustable harnesses
  • Are any size lager than XXL
  • Need the ability to change out O-rings for different sized appendages

The Lovehoney Unisex Strap-On Harness Briefs offer an affordable, comfortable, and stylish choice for beginners or those needing a new harness. These harness briefs are versatile, catering to a variety of bodies and needs. They are made of soft, stretchy material, featuring an O-ring for a dildo, extra fabric for comfort when using a double-ended toy, and a small pocket for a bullet vibrator. Designed for both pegging and packing, they also have an elastic strip to secure a packer during day-to-day wear. The sleek black design with a red lining and Lovehoney’s heart logo accentuates its appeal. Despite a few drawbacks such as non-adjustability and a one-size O-ring, these briefs have received a user rating of 4.6/5.0 for their great performance and attractive look.

  • Made of stretchy and breathable material
  • Look stylish and sexy
  • Able to use them in a variety of ways
  • Suitable for average sized and smaller dildos

  • Not adjustable
  • Don't come in sizes larger than XXL
  • Not able to change the size of the O-ring
  • On the cheaper side, which could lead to them breaking sooner than expected
Unisex Strap on Harness Briefs
Harness SizeS/M, M/L, L/XL, XXL inches
DiameterO-Ring: 1.5 inches
MaterialsCotton and Elastane
AdjustableNo
Storage Bag IncludedMaybe (the listing says yes, but I did not receive one)
Colors AvailableBlack

The Lovehoney Unisex Strap-On Harness Briefs prove to be a strong contender in the budget strap-on market. Their comfort, adaptability, and stylish design provide an exceptional experience, catering to a diverse array of bodies and sexual needs. While they lack some features such as adjustable sizing and interchangeable O-rings, they make up for these shortcomings with a plethora of thoughtful design features and additional accoutrements. Their performance with a variety of toys, ease of use, and ability to incite a sense of gender euphoria make them a standout product, and a dream come true for many. Despite a few challenges in terms of size fitting and durability due to their budget-friendly nature, these briefs are well worth considering for anyone seeking a reliable and aesthetically pleasing strap-on harness. Ultimately, the Lovehoney Unisex Strap-On Harness Briefs offer more than just functionality – they also offer a boost of confidence and gender affirmation, truly setting them apart in the market.

12 Vibrating

Desire Luxury Vibrating Strap On Kit

 Desire Strap On Kit

  • want a strap on with built-in vibrations
  • prefer to have a remote control
  • want a harness that can be used with other dildos

Desire Strap On Kit

  • are not interested in the vibrating feature
  • are new to penetrative play

This purple pleaser comes with two inbuilt vibrating motors for enhanced stimulation. The smooth curve allows to you to direct those vibrations to the most sensitive spots — the g-spot for vulva owners or the p-spot for penis owners, and the vibrations can be controlled using the remote so you don’t have to stop and fiddle around looking for the buttons! The unisex harness can be worn by anyone and is full adjustable, making this strap on both practical and pretty! And the icing on the cage is the sleek, black storage case, which allows you to travel or charge your strap on discreetly wherever you go!

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  • Rechargeable
  • Remote control
  • Discreet charging & storage case
  • 20 vibration settings
  • Curved dildo for G-spot or P-spot stimulation

  • The vibrations could be stronger
  • Might be too small for some
Desire Strap On Kit
Vibration speeds12
Vibration patterns8
Insertable length7 inches
Diameter1.59 inches
WaterproofYes (not remote)
MaterialsSilicone (dildo)
RechargeableYes
Remote ControlsYes
Storage Bag IncludedYes — case

If you love vibrations, this is such a step up from the usual bullet vibrators, which can often be disappointing and leaving you craving more. I also love that you get a remote as there’s nothing worse than having to stop play to change the settings. The dildo is a lovely, sensual purple color and the size best suits someone who has experience with anal or vaginal penetration before. The black storage case is also a really nice touch and definitely makes it feel like a luxury product. It is a little pricier but if you know you love strap on sex and vibrations, I would say it’s definitely spending a little extra!

13 Hollow

Doc Johnson Silicone Hollow Strap-On Kit

 Doc Johnson Hollow Strap-On Kit

  • want a strap on to wear over a penis
  • have erectile dysfunction
  • want to add more length or girth to your erection
  • want a variety of different size dildos
  • want to explore double penetration

Doc Johnson Hollow Strap-On Kit

  • are looking for a strap to be worn only by a vulva owner
  • have a larger than average penis
  • prefer a vibrating dildo
  • are new to penetration

This sleek, black, silicone, hollow strap on set can be worn by vulva owners and penis owners alike! The three silicone dildos feature a hollow canal that can accommodate a penis, allowing you to give your partner the pleasure of a bigger, harder erection. It also a tool if you have erectile dysfunction. The unique silicone harness is sturdy but comfortable and sits snugly against your body, and it’s quick and easy to switch between the three different style dildos to suit your desires.

  • Three different dildos
  • Can be worn over a penis
  • Can be used for double penetration
  • Silicone

  • Can be difficult to insert penis
  • Might be too small for some penises
  • Harness might not fit larger bodies
  • Harness not compatible with other dildos
Doc Johnson Hollow Strap-On Kit
Insertable lengthS: 7 inches; M: 7.5 inches, L: 8 inches
DiameterS: 1.9 inches; M: 1.9 inches, L: 2.2 inches
Diameter (internal) 1.75 inches
WaterproofYes
MaterialsSilicone
Harness Size28-48 inches inches

This hollow strap on set is a really great way to add a little more length and girth to your erection, and give you partner a little extra stimulation. It’s also fantastic if you want to live out the fantasy of having sex with someone else, as although it’s still your partner, you get to experience three different sized penises! I would say this is best suited to penis owners with a smaller penis size otherwise it can be a little uncomfortable to wear. Although you can also slip your penis through the hole in the harness for some double penetration action! The thick waistband and silicone harness also make this comfortable to wear and easy to clean. The downside is that you can only use this harness with the dildos provided as it does not feature a Vac-U-Lock system or O-rings. If this doesn’t tickle your fancy, check out our other top strap ons for penis owners.

14 Advanced

Lovehoney Deluxe Strap On Kit

 Deluxe Strap On Kit

  • are ready for a bigger dildo
  • want two dildos for variation
  • want a harness to use with other dildos

Deluxe Strap On Kit

  • prefer a smaller dildo
  • are looking for a vibrating strap on

Bring on the big boy with the Deluxe Strap On Kit from Lovehoney! Perfect for people who crave the full on satisfaction of a bigger dildo or are working their way up to it! The smaller dildo provides the perfect warm up for the larger, 8-inch whopper! With realistic veins and a sculpted head, the larger dildo also offers enhanced sensations and a little more realism compared to the smaller, smoother dildo. And if that wasn’t enough variation for you, you can also use the three included O-rings to sub in another dildo of your choice. The harness is easy to adjust and will fit anyone with up to a 67 inch waist.

  • two very different size dildos
  • one smooth, one textured dildo
  • harness compatible with other dildos
  • dildos have suction cup bases

  • larger dildo a little pointy
  • very big size difference might not suit some
Deluxe Strap On Kit
LengthSmall dildo: 5.6 inches; Large dildo: 8 inches
DiameterSmall dildo: 1.14 inches; Large dildo: 1.87 inches
WaterproofYes
MaterialsSilicone (dildos)
Harness Sizeup to 67 inches inches

Another great set with two high quality silicone dildos, but the large dildo in this set is definitely for the more experienced out there. At 8 inches long and just under 2 inches in diameter, not only is it big, but you can also really feel the textural details and curve. The only issue with the larger dildo is that the end can feel a little pointy when thrusting hard. The smaller dildo is considerably smaller at just 5.6 inches long and 1.14 inches wide, which is fine for a warm up or anal use, but if you want two dildos for training/stretching, it’s quite a large jump from the small to the large. I would recommend using a medium size dildo in between, as going directly from the small to the large might be too intense. Luckily, you get three O-rings, so you can easily buy a medium size dildo to fill that gap (pun intended).

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Fun Factory ShareVibe

 Fun Factory ShareVibe

  • want to explore more intimate strap-on play
  • want stimulation for both partners

Fun Factory ShareVibe

  • want something totally hands-free
  • don't want to use a harness for extra support
  • are new to penetrative play

The ShareVibe from Fun Factory is a strapless strap-on designed to pleasure both partners at the same time. As well as the two shafts, the ShareVibe has a removable, rechargeable bullet vibrator that slips into the base and a silicone ridge that adds some extra clitoral stimulation! Plus, the harness-free design allows for a more intimate strap-on experience as there’s no harness between your bodies.

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  • Pleasure for both partners
  • Firm but flexible silicone
  • Rechargeable bullet vibrator

  • Can be difficult to hold in place
  • Might still need to buy a harness for support
  • Might need to prepare if using for anal penetration
Fun Factory ShareVibe
Vibration speeds2
Vibration patterns3
Length11 inches
Insertable length5.5 inches
Diameter1.4 - 1.6 inches
WaterproofYes
MaterialsSilicone
RechargeableYes
Battery Life45-90 minutes
Charging Time120 minutes
Travel LockNo

The ShareVibe is a really great quality strapless strap-on that makes for some great pegging or strap-on play! If you are using it for anal penetration, you might want to use a smaller dildo to prepare first, especially if you are new to anal sex. While this is a really well-made strapless strap-on, it does have the same issue as all strap-ons in that it can be difficult to hold in place. As the wearer you will most likely need to hold the ShareVibe or use it with a strap-on harness for extra stability.

Things to consider when buying a strap on

  • Harness Style — You want a harness that is going to be comfortable, and supportive! There are two main options. First, strap-style harnesses, which are the most supportive but can be fiddly. Secondly, underwear-style harnesses, which offer a little less support but can feel more natural.
  • Harness Material — If you want a strap on for everyday use, I would recommend going for something machine washable. However, if you are looking for more of BDMS style, a leather harness definitely looks the part!
  • Dildo Size — Whoever is on the receiving end should pick the dildo. If you are using your strap-on for anal play/pegging, or you are just getting into penetrative play, I recommend going for something smaller. Check out the beginner’s option in the review for my favorite first time strap on.
  • Dildo Shape — If you are looking for some delicious g-spot or p-spot stimulation, shop for a strap on that comes with a curved dildo.
  • Dildo Material — As always, we recommend buying a non-toxic, non-porous dildo, such as silicone dildo.
  • Dildo Compatibility — Harnesses that use O-rings can be used with any dildo with a flared base. So typically more diverse than those harnesses with a suction cup base.
  • Vibrations — Some strap ons come with bullet vibrators that can be inserted into the dildo or the harness for some extra stimulation. If you crave strong vibrations I would recommend you pick a strap on with built in vibrations as the quality and strength of the vibrations tend to be better.

Strap On Sizes: Which is Right For You?

When it comes to strap-ons and strap-on kits, sizing can feel more than confusing! That’s why we’ve created this handy guide to help you choose the best size for you and your partner. Sizing and measuring, though it may sound boring, is an essential part of finding a strap on that feels comfortable and suits your needs perfectly. From strapless to hollow we’ll cover the best ways to measure, get comfortable, and find your perfect strap on!

Beginner

For strap-on beginners, a length of between 3 inches and 5 inches is substantial so as not to be too intimidating- especially if the receiver doesn’t have much experience with penetration. A diameter of between 1.1 and 2 is a good thickness for beginners. Our recommendations

Intermediate

If you’re looking to size up from beginner, we recommend anywhere up to 8 inches. A sufficient diameter for intermediate is up to 2.5 inches. Our recommendations

Experienced

For the experienced players craving girth, a length of up to 12 or more inches is available; and a diameter of 3-3.5 inches can be obtained. Ensure that you use a good amount of water-based lube and take your time. Our recommendations

Extra slim or extra girthy?

Extra slim or extra girthy? - Strap On Sizes: Which is Right For You?
There are a range of diameters available, however you might be a bit confused about which is best! An extra slim strap on would be ideal for first time pegging dildos which is typically what is included in pegging kits or on his and hers strap-ons, whilst a girthy option would be great for experienced strap on play. It’s also important to note that certain stores use different measurement systems for diameter, width, and circumference; US stores usually measure a toy using the diameter (straight across the shaft/width), and UK stores often use circumference (measuring around the shaft of a toy).

Extra slim

0.8 inch- 1.25- Tantus Bend Over Strap On Kit

Girthy

2.75 inch- Hankey’s Toys Topher

How to measure a vagina

  • You’ll need a dildo or a shaft like object which is clean and smooth
  • The person with the vagina should lie back and become stimulated
  • Slide the dildo/shaft into the vagina until it cannot go further (do this gently)
  • Mark the point on the object where the vagina has reached (use a marker/pen)
  • Now, you can remove the object and measure from the tip up to the mark
  • You now have the length that the vagina can take

How to measure for a hollow strap on

To do this, you’ll only need to measure for the diameter of your erect penis; the length does not matter. The canal in a hollow strap on can range from 1.25-2 inches. Note: Use a soft, flexible measuring tape for safety!
  • For this bit, you need to have an erection or as close to an erection as you can
  • Take the measuring tape and wrap it around the girthiest part of your penis
  • This is now your measurement in circumference, however you need to convert this to diameter
  • To find the diameter, you can divide the number by 3.14 or use an online converter
  • Once you have the diameter, you can shop for your new hollow strap on!

How to measure for a harness

Measuring for a harness is super easy; all you’ll need is a measuring tape!

Underwear

Measuring for strap on underwear is as simple as knowing your underwear size! Sizes usually range from 4-30 in US.

Harness

Simply wrap the measuring tape around your waist and make a note of the size; next, do the same thing but around the upper thighs- these are the places where the harness sits. You now have your measurements and can purchase a harness that fits perfectly!

20 different types

This blog post will take you through the different types of strap ons. For each type of strap on I will also reveal:
  • What is different about the type of strap on
  • Who it primarily is for
  • Which advantages you stand to gain from buying this type of strap on (Pros)
  • Which disadvantages the type of strap on has, of course (Cons)
I will start by introducing som of the more classic strap on types, and then walk lastly walk you through som very peculiar ones.

Non-interchangable or interchangable

Non-interchangable or interchangable - 20 different types
What is different: These are the “standard” Strap Ons. They feature a strap on harness, with a typical O-ring. That way you can fit almost any type of suction cup dildo in them. You can also get them with just a stuck harness, that are typically less expensive. Who is it for: Everyone. Both lesbian couples, straight couples, gays. Pros: Easy to use. Can change the size of the strap on dildo if it is interchangeable. Cons: Does not offer that much excitement if you are already a strap on connoisseur.

Vibrating

Vibrating - 20 different types
What is different: Well, the vibrator. It can come as an add-on bullet vibrator, that you insert in the dildo in your harness. If you have a harness that can fit many different strap on dildos, you can also fit your vibrating dildo here. Who is it for: Everyone, who wants to add an extra layer of pleasure to their strap on adventures. Pros: More stimulation, and possible a fantastic time for both partners, as the vibrations might also hit the thrusting partner. Cons: A bit more expensive. Can be harder to manage during sex, if you don’t have remote control over the vibrator. We’ve ranked the best vibrating strap ons here.

Strap On Dick

Strap On Dick - 20 different types
What is different: This is primarily a strap on for men. It works similarly to a cock ring, but just with an added dildo attachement. That way, you can now be the proud owner of two dildos Who is it for: People who want dual stimulation. Either as vaginal and anal. Double vaginal, or double anal penetration is also an option for the brave. If you want a a bigger fit in either whole, then you can also consider a cock sleeve instead to provide more width. Pros: Easy to use and “strap on”. Cons: Can be a bit flimsy if you don’t find a good fit.

Strapless

Strapless - 20 different types
What is different: Well, quite obviously, you do not have a harness. This means, that your pelvic muscles are going to have to keep this bad boy in. On end is shaped just as any normal strap on dildo. The other is typically a shorter bulbeous dildo, that is made to stick inside the “thrusting” partner. Who is it for: Typically a strap on made for lesbians. But, can also be a perfect his and hers strap on for pegging – in effect weared by the female pegging the man for straight couples. Pros: You don’t have to struggle with getting into what you might consider an unsexy harness. Cons: Most find, that strapless strap ons are super hard to keep inside. And the last thing you want to worry about during sex is keeping things in the correct place!

Hollow

Hollow - 20 different types
What is different: This type of strap on has a hole in the middle, that is a hollow space for your penis. It works partly as a cock sleeve that just just allows for larger penis sleeves to be worn, because of the harness. Who is it for: It is a strap on for men who want to feel the sensation of having a larger penis. Or men with erection problems who want to be intimate with their partner with penetrative sex still. Pros: Can help if you are in need of a hard on, and can’t get one. If your partner wants to try a larger size, or you have fantasies about your partner trying something bigger. Cons: Can limit the feel inside, so basically your penis will recieve a lot less stimulation. Can be hard to find the correct size, so that it fit’s snugle around your penis. You can find our best rated hollow strap ons here.

Underwear

Underwear - 20 different types
What is different: Instead of the typical harness made of elastic band or leather, this “harness” is just a bacis pair of underwear or panties. It has ring that you can fit the dildo through (and also a slip to the side, where you start by inserting the penis). Who is it for: People who feel the harness are uncomfortable or not flexible enough during intercourse. Pros: Feel really good. Quick to take on. Cons: Less access to the wearers genetals. Can be wiggly and not as easy to ride on or thrust with. You can find the strap on underwear we rated the best here.

Large

Large - 20 different types
What is different: The dildo is bigger, and can be ALOT bigger, just look at the picture – from one of our tests. You can of course get “large” strap ons that aren’t XXL and monster sizes. The harness doesn’t change in size, if you are looking for a large harness, then I will later cover plus size strap on harnesses. Who is it for: If your partner, or yourself, want a very large strap on dildo. Pros: Will for sure fill you completely. Cons: Might end up getting a bit to big, or be hard to maneuvre around.

Small

Small - 20 different types
What is different: The dildo is a lot smaller. Typically smaller than the average penis size (6 inches long, and 5 inches in circumference). They can also be small enough for anal use. Who is it for: Typically beginners, or people who have felt discomfort with a larger strap on dildo. Pros: Using lube, you are less likely to feel any discomfort using a small strap on dildo. Cons: You might end up feeling, that it doesn’t fill you out enough. So please, o buy an interchangeable dildo for your strap on. You can find the best small strap ons in this guide.

Prostate Targeted

Prostate Targeted - 20 different types
What is different: This type of strap on will have a curved dildo with a bulb or texture at the end. It is typically smaller in circumfrence. As the prostate is a small gland located farther towards the front (belly) of your body, the curvature needs to point this way. You can turn the curved prostate strap on dildo the direction you want. So e.g. if you are in doggy, turn it down towards the ground. And if you are riding (or getting rid) thn turn it up towards your head. Who is it for: For people with a prostate gland, typically men. Pros: Unlike normal strap on dildos, these are made to stimulate the prostate effectively, and if you are the lucky owner of a prostate you are likely to get a lot more pleasure from these. Cons: Controlling which way the curve is pointing can be hard, and it can change during stimulation. Be sure to get a prostate strap on that give you the option of changing the direction the “curve” is pointing towards. Find our best reviewed and rated prostate strap on dildos in this guide.

Realistic

Realistic - 20 different types
What is different: the strap on dildos are made to look realistic. If you are looking for a strap on that also feels realistic we have made a top list of the best real feel strap ons. Who is it for: For anyone who enjoys sex toys, including strap ons, that looks like a real penis. Pros: Very good at imitating the real deal. For example if your partners enjoys that, or does not get off from a “silicone stick”. Cons: A lot of realistic looking strap on dildos are made from TPE or materials that aren’t as safe as silicone. If you want to find safe to use and the best Realistic Strap Ons out there, take a look at this guide.

Plus Size

Plus Size - 20 different types
What is different: The dildos can be all different sizes, and does not change. The Harness is however made for bigger sizes. This means that the harness will be made to fit for bigger buts and waists. Who is it for: For those bodies who aren’t made in the average sizes that strap ons come in. If you have experienced that you couldn’t fit in your harness or underwear. Pros: Will fit you better. Cons: None, really. Not if it’s the right size for you. You can find our guide to the best plus size strap ons in this guide.

Ejaculating (also called “squirting”)

Ejaculating (also called “squirting”) - 20 different types
What is different: This type of strap on has a mechanism by which you can release an ejalucation. Thereby the name ejaculating strap on. It typically works with a syringe that will squirt out fake semen. Who is it for: Those that want to get an extra layer of realism into their strap on play. Pros: Makes for a realistic ending to your play, and if your strugling with ED you can now ejaculate with your partner or recreate that feeling. Cons: Typically more expensive, and you have to refill the fake semen syringe. You can see our guide to the best ejaculating strap ons here.

Double Penetration

Double Penetration - 20 different types
What is different: Typically, these come in two different kinds. First, is one that penetrates both partners like a double dildo or a strapless strapon. The difference is, that it is still in a harness. The other works similar to a cock ring strap on dildo. However, here you have two strap on dildos attached to one harness – for dual stimulation. Who is it for: The first type is for someone who would like to have two dildos penetrate them at once, either one anal and one vaginal or two in one. The other type is typically for lesbian couples or for pegging play. So that both partners at the same time can enjoy penetration. Pros: A double penetration strap on is most likely the best alternative to a strapless strap on. The added harness makes sure that you don’t have to concentrate about anything else than enjoying each other (especially not trying to keep the bulb inside during play). Cons: The angle of the second dildo (the one stimulating the partner) can often be oddly placed, as women are so different it makes it hard for manufacturers to find the best possible location for everyone. Especially as it is also dependent on what angle you are using it for penetration. The best double penetration strap ons can be found in our round up review.

Glow in the Dark

Glow in the Dark - 20 different types
What is different: Primary the materials. A silicone or TPE material with glowing qualities is used. Who is it for: The couple that like the added sensation of playing in the dark. As the dark removes orientation possibility, and as you don’t have a great feeling for where your strap on is at all times, having it glow up can be beneificial. Pros: Plain and simply, you can see it. However, don’t expect it to work as a torch leading you to the cave of pleasure – it’s not that bright. Cons: I am a bit sceptical of the safety of having the materials you use to stimulate yourself can glow. Sounds like some chemicals shouldn’t necesarilly be present, but are. Therefore, please refrain from using it what so ever, if the material have been breached.

Kits

Kits - 20 different types
What is different: A strap on kits typically consists of one harness and multiple dildos and o-rings (o-rings are how you attach the dildo). This means, that the kit can help you try out many different sizes. The Vac-U-Lock strap on kit on the image features a smart locking and interchangable mechanism. Who is it for: those that are not sure about sizes, or would like to warm up before going for the big dong. Pros: Offers multiple sizes, and you know the dildos will fit snugly as they are part of the same kit. Cons: Typically kits are a bit more expensive, compared to just buying a strap on.

Thigh Strap On

Thigh Strap On - 20 different types
What is different: This isn’t your average strap on. This thigh strap on fits around your thigh, knee, or lower leg. It is used for play, where you are sitting or lying down and you partner is riding you. Or vice versa. Who is it for: Fit for anyone who wants to try a strap on out of the ordinary, and who maybe does not like the thrusting motions. Pros: Cool type of strap on, that can also be wrapped around other surfaces or areas. You imagination is the only limilations Cons: If you don’t buy a thigh strap on with a good strap it can fit losely of be wiggly on the leg, or other places.

Other types of strap ons not mentioned, but quickly listed:

  • Anal strap on
  • Huge, massive, giant strap on
  • Mistress strap on
  • Bad dragon strap on
  • Gay strap on
  • Leather strap on (harness)
  • Extreme strap on
  • Strap on with balls
  • Chin strap on – also called a face dildo
  • Strap on penis extender
  • Strap on with clit stimulator

Strap on brands

  • Vac-U-Lock
  • Feeldo
  • Lovehoney
  • Tracey Cox
  • Tantus
  • Desire
  • Happy Rabbit
  • Together Toy
  • Doc Johnson
  • Wet For Her

Strap Ons vs Pegging

The phrases pegging and strap-on sex are often used interchangeably, as both involve using a strap-on or strapless strap on dildo to penetrate a partner. There is one key difference though, and that is who is on the receiving end!

Strap on sex

Strap on sex - Strap Ons vs Pegging
Strap on sex is any sex that involves one partner wearing some form of strap on dildo to penetrate their partner. This can be done by people of any gender and refers to both anal and vaginal penetration.

Pegging

Pegging - Strap Ons vs Pegging
The term pegging specifically refers to a cis-gender woman penetrating a cis-gender man anally using a strap-on dildo. It involves elements of role reversal and power play. However, in reality many people use this term more generally to refer to all types of strap on sex.

Reasons to use a strap-on

If you’re still not sure if strap-on sex is for you, here are some reasons why people use them and why you might enjoy it too!

Vulva owner's get to do the penetrating

Vulva owner's get to do the penetrating - Reasons to use a strap-on
Strap-ons allow vulva owners to penetrate their partner. Strap-ons allow two vulva owners to enjoy more intimate and authentic penetrative sex or a vulva owner to penetrate their penis owning partner.

Role reversal

Role reversal  - Reasons to use a strap-on
Pegging reverses the usual dynamics in the relationship, meaning both partner’s get a new experience and better understanding of what it’s like to be in the opposite position. This is also a fun way to experiment with domination and submission if that’s something you both enjoy!

They are great for people with erectile dysfunction

They are great for people with erectile dysfunction - Reasons to use a strap-on
Hollow strap-ons are a great tool for people with erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation.

What Makes Silicone Such a Good Material for Strap-ons?

Like metal and glass, silicone is a non-porous material. This means that it’s body-safe, can be sterilized, and is easy to clean! Silicone is also relatively soft and comfortable against the skin (which is very important in a toy like a silicone hollow strap on!). Unlike some other materials such as PVC, silicone is phthalate and allergen-free. You should try to find medical-grade silicone if you’re looking for the best quality silicone.

How to Use a Strap On

Using a strap on can be a bit of learning curve, as you might not be used to being the penetrator, but with a bit of practice it becomes much more natural. Wearing a strap on, whether you are penetrating penis owning partner or vulva owning partner, can feel both exciting and empowering! For the best experience, make sure to communicate clearly with your partner.

Adjust the harness

Adjust the harness

If your harness has straps, you will need to fit them to your body. Step into the harness and tighten so the harness is snug against your body and the base sits flat against your pubic mound.

Practice Wearing it

Practice Wearing it

If this is your first time wearing the harness, I recommend wearing it around the house to get a feel for how it moves. Try thrusting, do a little dance, whatever takes your fancy! This will help you get used to moving with the strap on.

Warm up first

Warm up first

When it comes to having sex, make sure your partner is fully aroused before trying to penetrate them. If you are penetrating them vaginally, warm up with some clitoral or vaginal stimulation. If you are going for anal penetration, you can massage their perineum and anus. You can also warm up by slowly inserting a finger, but don’t miss the next step!

Use plenty of lube

Use plenty of lube

No matter what type of penetration you are going for, always apply plenty of water-based lubrication first! You might also need to reapply as you play, especially during anal penetration.

Penetrate your partner slowly

Penetrate your partner slowly

You will want to go slowly as you don’t get any physical feedback from a dildo as you would a penis. Allow your partner to guide you and communicate clearly.

Allow your partner to move

Allow your partner to move

Once the dildo is inserted, you can let your partner move back and forth. The cowgirl position is great as the person being penetrated is control of the depth and movement.

Work your way up to thrusting

Work your way up to thrusting

As you become more comfortable, you can experiment with thrusting in and out of your partner. Make sure to check in with them to see what feels good and what doesn’t.

How to Clean a Strap on?

It's important to clean your strap on before and after every use to keep you safe and the strap on in great condition! You should always check the manufacturer's cleaning instructions, but here are some general guidelines. Many harnesses are machine washable but always check beforehand. Harnesses made from silicone or leather will need to be cleaned by hand. If your dildo is waterproof, you can use warm water and soap or a sex toy cleaner to wash it. If it is not waterproof, wipe the dildo down with a damp cloth or sex toy cleaner, making sure to remove all of the residue. Make sure everything is fully dry before storing it away for next time.

FAQ

Harness style — loosen the harness so you can step into it, one leg at a time. Pull it up and tighten the straps a bit. Place the dildo in the harness, and then fully tighten the straps so the harness is snug and secure.

Vulva owners can wear all types of strap on, whereas penis owners will need to look for a unisex strap on, which has a hole in the harness for their penis or a hollow strap on, which has space inside the dildo for their penis.

Strap ons can be part of all types of partner sex. They are commonly used by two partners with vulvas to experience penetration or worn by a person with a vulva to penetrate their penis-owning partner (a.k.a pegging). People with penises may also choose to wear a strap on if they erectile dysfunction, want to increase the size of their penis, or for double penetration.

You should use water-based lubrication with your strap on, unless your dildo is made of glass or stainless steel, in which case, you can use any lubricant of your choice.

All of the strap on dildos in this post are from shops we love and trust, so you can shop with peace of mind. You should also shop from reputable sex toy stores, online or in person.

What is a strap on?

A strap on is a harness with a dildo that allows you be the penetrating partner without having a penis or an erection. The harness is worn like a pair of underwear and holds a dildo of your choice, allowing anyone to experience what it is like to penetrate their partner as if they had a penis. Strap ons are often be used for penetrative sex between two partners with vulvas or for pegging — where a vulva owning partner penetrates their partner anally. There are also hollow strap ons that can be worn over a penis to experience a bigger erection or help with erectile dysfunction. There really is a strap on for every occasion!

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