7 Best BDSM Restraints for Bondage

This has to be the best BDSM restraint I have tried to date! No it’s not the most secure or heavy duty restraint but my goodness it’s SO much fun! The thing I love about these sex bed straps is that once I installed them, which was actually very easy to do, they have just stayed under my bed, ready and waiting for any impromptu bondage sessions that may arise! My absolutely favorite thing about this set is when my partner tightens the straps — the sound of the straps, combined with my wrists and legs getting pulled tight to the bed sends excitement coursing through my body! I will say, they aren’t the most secure restraints and the straps can move around a little during use, so if you are looking for more heavy-duty, high security bondage, I would go for restraints with buckles that secure directly to the bed. Otherwise, I wouldn’t hesitate to buy these again!

I was the lucky tester of the Sportsheets Saffron Spreader Bar and it was my first time trying a spreader bar. I really liked that it had the option for both wrist and ankle restraint at the same time, as I was interested in exploring full body restraint, but I will also say it was quite an intense experience! Of all the restraints I’ve tried, I think this was one of the most intense, which also came with some fantastically subby-feelings! That being said, I like that you can also use it just on the ankles or wrists for a less intense restraint, as the cuffs are detachable. This also has the added benefit of making it really easy to switch positions during use without having to undo and refasten the buckles on the restraints. Although I found the vegan leather a little stiff, the cuffs are actually very comfortable to wear during use. I was also really surprised by how sturdy it is. I don’t have any worries using it for more rough play. The red and black color combo isn’t my favorite, but once I was locked in, it made very little difference! I actually now have a few BDSM products from the Saffron range, and I’ve been impressed with the quality. I think it makes for some great intermediate level bondage gear.

I chose to include these door restraints are another really fun way to explore bondage outside the bed, and having your partner restrained while standing offers new and exciting ways to tease them! The Door Jam restraints ticked loads of our tester Cassie’s boxes — they are “super affordable, very easy to use, ideal for bringing with you on the go, machine washable, and pretty much compatible with any kind of door you would have at home.” She found these “by far one of the easiest ways to explore standing bondage play at every angle” without having to install hooks or more permanent solutions. Overall, she was pleased with the quality and although they are lightweight and maybe not the best for heavy-duty bondage, she found “they actually are quite durable.” The cuffs themselves are quite basic and “shed a tiny bit” but they are “super soft on the skin.” The main downside that Cassie discovered when testing them was the lack of adjustability in the strap-length. I can see this being an issue for anyone significantly shorter than average or using them with very high door frames.

I thought this bondage tape deserved a spot in the review, as it’s just so versatile and easy to use! While I don’t think it’s the best option for all kinds of bondage, I think it’s a really great way to tie someone up quickly and a fantastic ‘on-the-go’ option that I would chuck into my bag for some holiday fun! Our tester, Britnee, loved how easy it was to use for wrist restraint but did find that “with vigorous movement/struggle, the tape became lax” and she was able to escape. She also found some more creative uses for it and found that it made a “a nice wrap around the breasts or as a choker around the neck.” It was also impressive that “When used as a blindfold it doesn’t stick to the hair or pull out eyelashes/eyebrows” The other drawback of using bondage tape, aside from it not being the most secure, is that it “will stick to itself and tends to bunch up or roll” so it can be a little fiddly.

I couldn’t do a review of restraints without a good pair of handcuffs! They truly are a staple in any BDSM toolkit. I personally don’t think you need to spend a whole lot on super fancy hand cuffs, it’s most often not worth it I’ve found. I actually think comfort and ease of use are much more important, which is why I chose the Bondage Boutique Soft Handcuffs. Edie reviewed them for us and actually preferred these soft cuffs over others she’d tried because “they are comfortable, breathable, and don’t leave any bruises or marks.” She also found that although the velcro was easy and non-intimidating, it was “surprisingly secure […]  Even pulling, wiggling and struggling while wearing these cuffs, they hold together so well” so although they are beginner-friendly, they are still very effective! She also pointed out that the swivel clips are a nice addition as they allow for a little bit of movement. I also like that they can be attached to each other or other restraint points. While I wouldn’t say these are the most luxurious handcuffs out there, I would be more than happy to add them to my collection!

I wasn’t sure about this BDSM collar at first and thought it was going to look and feel a bit too chunky on me, but once it was on, I actually really liked it! I originally got it for some kitty role play but it’s actually a great collar for all kinds of power play! I really love that the design in totally gender neutral and will look good on anyone and go with pretty much any style. The bow tie is a cute little extra but I was happy that it wasn’t too obvious or over the top. The vegan leather feels nice and soft against my skin and I found it comfortable to wear. I really like the look of the chain leash but it’s quite long and can clank around a bit, so it can be nicer to unclip it when you aren’t using it. It’s also really practical having D-rings on either side of the collar and swivelling mechanism on the clips. As someone who doesn’t use a collar often, this was the perfect price and quality for my needs. I think it’s a really fun little power play tool, as it instantly put me into my place as a sub!

I think bondage rope is a great way to move from beginner’s bondage into more intermediate bondage, with a bit more freedom and creativity. I chose the Bondage Boutique Soft Bondage Rope, as it’s a great quality rope at a great price that will satisfy most needs! Peter tried it out for us and was very happy with its performance and said it “it is perfect for what it’s designed for” and the woven cotton style has “a good look to it and a very nice soft feel.” Most importantly, “the rope held well and the knots stayed in place.” I love knowing that once I’ve got the rope in place it will stay put and won’t need to be readjusted! I also think that 10 meters is a good amount of rope for exploring a fair few bondage projects, and I really like that you can use it to restrain arms/legs to each other or to a restraint point, giving a lot more freedom than a single purpose restraint. Our tester did find that “the rope tightens up” during use, so I would be careful not to tie your ties too tightly and always leave a little room between the rope and your partner’s skin.