6 Best Strap-Ons for Lesbians

I picked out the Desire Luxury Vibrating Strap-On Kit because it is a great quality kit that offers a surprising amount of versatility. Our tester, Peter, (while admittedly not a lesbian) had his wife wear and use this harness while he was the lucky receiver. Both him and his wife had an amazing experience with this kit. First of all, the vibrations are very powerful! Peter noted that they felt amazing and that it was fun being able to experiment with so many different vibration patterns and speeds. Of course, the remote control is perfect for this. There’s no fumbling around in the harness to change up the intensity. I like how adjustable the harness itself is. Even Peter and his wife could attest to the fact that it will comfortably fit anything “from a slim person all the way up to the fuller figure ladies”. Another great pro is the versatility. Since the dildo has a suction cup base, it’s also great for solo play, manual penetration, and even external clit stimulation with the strong vibrations. Peter did wish for a slightly thicker dildo for his personal preference. That said, the 3 interchangeable o-rings of different sizes allow you to use the harness with a smaller or bigger dildo of your choice!

The Fun Factory ShareVibe Pro deserves the spot as the Runner-Up in this review because it’s a well-made device that offers strong and rumbly vibrations to both the giver and the receiver. My favorite part is the ergonomic design of the insertable pony. The tight curve and the bulbous shape is made to cup the pubic bone to stay in place. Other strapless strap-ons tend to rely on the pelvic floor muscles to do this. That’s why our tester, Jess, found that this one actually stay in place: “once I was able to get it positioned correctly, it was a lot easier to keep in during penetration than the original Fun Factory Share Vibe was.” In the case of well-made strapless models like this, these are one my top recommendations for a lesbian strap-on. I absolutely love how this design provides so much interactive pleasure between partners. A regular strap-on won’t have the same kind of feedback. The design also lends itself to elevated solo play according to Jess: “I was able to use it as a standard vibrating dildo with a handle, as well as a dildo with clitoral stimulation by closing the hinge more and pushing the other end into the clit.”

I think the Tantus Bend Over Strap-On Kit is a fabulous combination of great quality at a great price. Compared to the other strap-ons for lesbians we are looking at today, this falls in the mid-price range, which makes this pretty good value for money when you consider everything you get in the kit! Not only do you get two dildos to choose from, these are the Tantus Silk dildos made of premium silicone. They’re super smooth and have the perfect design for beginners or those who are interested in some strap-on anal. I love how well the harness is made to fit a lot of different sizes. That said, people in smaller pieces may find that the excess strap can get a bit annoying during use. Still, our tester Christina loved that “the harness did not loosen at all while thrusting and the dildo stayed securely in place.” It also didn’t chafe like she had suspected it would. Although, the small vibrator pocket didn’t keep the vibrator in place very well. “The little vibrator comes with a battery and feels like a cheap plastic cover, but has a decently strong buzz and has proven durable.” So, if you already have a favorite bullet vibrator you could use that instead. If you have other dildos, or want to buy other dildos then this harness will accommodate them too. Compared to some of the other products in this review, this kit is super easy to clean. The dildos can be fully sterilized. For Christina, “the fact that the harness can be thoroughly washed gives this kit a big advantage over my leather harness for using with other partners.”

I’ve had the pleasure of testing out the Strap-On-Me Bendable Strap-On Small myself. Now, even though I’m not a big fan of using strap-ons in general (as the wearer, that is), I absolutely LOVE this little guy! First things first, the silicone is so luxuriously soft and smooth. As a professional sex toy tester, I’ve tried a lot of different silicone toys, and this is one just feels so comfortable! The adjustable hinge allowed me to customize the angle to fit my body (which I always feel is a struggle with some sex toys). This, along with the wide, egg-shaped pony, helped it stay pretty securely in place when thrusting about. My absolute favorite part is the internal massage. Now, I’ve tried both ends of this strapless strap-on, and they both deliver some satisfying g-spot and a-spot massage. I especially like that every movement in the dildo can be felt (intensely) in the pony! The dildo is super flexible and lightweight which does make it a bit difficult to maneuver (especially for anal penetration). Another small thing to keep in mind is that the dildo in the Small size is a bit short. So if you have a larger FUPA or tummy, this can make the full length even less accessible when wearing it.

The Lovehoney Desire Luxury Strapless Strap-On offers something that most of the other strapless strap-ons in this review don’t: direct clitoral stimulation. The silicone rabbit ears adds to the wearer’s pleasure so simultaneous orgasm is made possible! Of course, this device is best suited for those who already know that they enjoy a classic rabbit-style vibrator. The design is not a universal fit and the toy isn’t adjustable so be sure that your body already knows and likes those rabbit ears. What I like about this toy, as a lesbian strap-on, is the vibration settings. First of all, there are many to explore and enjoy. But being able to control them separately makes it easy to customize to your likings. Of course, it would be easier to play around with those settings with remote control. Our tester, Vicki, also noted that she ” pleasantly discovered that this toy could be used as two separate toys too: G-spot vibrator and a vibrating dildo!”. Technically, it’s also a rabbit vibrator. Versatility is always a plus in my book. The main drawback is the design of the insertable pony. It doesn’t stay in place during thrusting and “it is a lot of pressure on the vagina to hold onto the strap on so it can get quite tiring, however the vibrations do help to increase the pleasure.” I recommend using it with a harness to make the whole experience more enjoyable.

My personal favorite (apart from the Strap On Me Bendable Strap-On Small) is definitely the Lovense Lapis. Now, it actually is very similar to the Runner-Up (Fun Factory ShareVibe Pro) but there are a few important differences. The Runner-Up definitely performs better as a ‘strapless strap-on’. Our tester, Joseph, did find that the Lovense Lapis needed some extra support to stay in place. This is easy to fix by simply wearing it in a harness, but it is unfortunate that it doesn’t quite work as a ‘strapless’ option. On the bright side, the Lovense Lapis offers even stronger vibrations than the Fun Factory ShareVibe Pro. The three motors are also placed strategically to target specific areas, like the wearer’s g-spot and clitoris, and the receiver’s g-spot or a-spot. Another great pro about the Lovense Lapis is the app control feature. While this does raise the price point it’s an amazing feature that elevates your play time and allows you to explore more versatile fun.